Why they’re leaving the Church

(Part 3 of 4)

 (Let’s be aware of these problems and consider how we Joyful Catholics can help in the solution)

A couple, who are my splendid friends, were active Episcopalians for over twenty years. Through the CYO program which the husband was heading, they met a splendid priest. He was a saintly person. Because of his example, the couple realized the Catholic Church offered more depth of meaning in their spiritual lives, and they joined the Church.

When they moved to another parish, they discovered a different type of priest. He was an extreme egotist who wore a toupee, designer jeans and specially tailored suits. His delight was a high Mass with thundering organ, rich vestments and gold vessels on the altar. He crippled the St. Vincent de Paul activity in the church because it encouraged the appearance in the parish area of the poor black people, which would disturb the “right” people.

His meaningless homilies were no delight. He furnished the rectory with expensive oriental rugs, on which he didn’t want parishioners to tread. Finally, with a near revolt on the part of the congregation, the Church authority transferred the priest and inflicted him on another parish.

He was replaced by an attractive younger priest, who was very concerned about the youth. He encouraged the couple to adopt an eleven-year-old boy, who had a father in prison and mother who was a drug addict.Later, it was revealed that the priest was a pedophile. After the Church authority slapped his wrist, the priest was assigned elsewhere.

Another concern of my friends was the folksy approach to the Eucharist following Vatican II. During Mass, they now saw parishioners habitually rising with indifference to receive Communion like bolts on an assembly line.

The exposure to two lousy priests and the “ho hum” appreciation of the Eucharist crumbled the couple’s devotion to Catholicism, and they rejoined the Episcopal Church.

It is interesting that my inquiry to friends who have left the Church was welcomed by those I interviewed. I was the only person who had bothered to ask. That’s not good!

For example, for over twenty years, I enjoyed being a Knight of Malta. During that time, I originated two new successful programs and served on many committees and was a board member. When I became out-of-touch with the organization, I submitted a letter of resignation.

Two years later, I am still awaiting a reply and a peep from the Malta administration or a fellow member. This non-response causes me to consider their reaction to my leaving to be “good riddance”.

Let this be a lesson for us Joyful Catholics. If we know of a friend who is getting shaky about his or her Faith, confirm your interest by asking this person “why?” Odds are that he or she will be pleased with your concern and want to discuss problems of faith. Go for it!

Other recommended Catholic blogs

 - Creative Minority Report
- Domine, da mihi hanc aquam!
- Faith and Family Live

Recommended readings

- Cardinal Donald Wuerl’s excellent article “A New Relationship
in the September 26 issue of America
- Bishop Kirk S. Smith’s advice on “How to get more young people in church”, in The Episcopal Diocese of Arizona.

Roster of Joyful Catholic Priests

The media loves to publicize bad priests, and we should give recognition to our Joyful Catholic Priests. Send me your recommendation for ones you think merit membership in this splendid group. (aljagoe@comcast.net)
Fr. Robert Aufieri (NYC)
Fr. John M. Bauer (MN)
Fr. Edward Gorman, O.P. (DE)
Fr. Andrew Gries (DC)
Msgr. Edward Filardi (MD)
Fr. Raymond Kemp (DC)
Archbishop Jerome Listecki (MN)
Bishop Dennis Madden (MD)
Fr. Joseph Marini (CA)
Fr. John Mericantante (FL)
Msgr. Thomas Modugno (NYC
Fr.. John O’Donoghue (TX)
Fr. James R. Purfield (CO) NEW!
Archbishop Thomas J. Rodi (AL) NEW!
Msg. Paul L. Rohling (AL)
Fr. Matthew Ruhl, S.J. (KS)
Fr. Michael Scanlon (OH)
Fr. Richard Trout (FL)
Fr. Hayden Vaverek (NYC)
Fr. Malcolm Sylvester Willoughby, O.P. (DC)
Canon Stuart Wilson (London, UK)

Lightning Bug Catholics

 

We do indeed need to show joy as Catholics.

My motto… “Be happily and uncomplicatedly Catholic.”
Michael J. Sheehan
Archbishop of Santa Fe

Lightning Bug Catholics

Recently, my wife and I enjoyed an evening cookout in the park. At dusk as we sat looking over a grassy area towards the woods, we had a once-in-a-lifetime experience. Suddenly the area became alive with hundreds of lightning bugs. They put on a show like quiet fireworks on the 4th of July. One of the little fellows landed on the top of my hand and stayed long enough for me to observe his orange head. Then he lighted up his lower abdomen and took off.
Return home, still tingling from the awe of having witnessed this phenomena of nature, I did some research. I learned that “the bug’s light production (bioluminescence) is caused by enzyme luciferase acting on luciferin in the presence of magnesium ions, ATP, and oxygen to produce light with wavelengths from 510 to 70 nanometers.” Wow!
During the week I realized that we Joyful Catholics are the lightning bugs in the Church. Those other staid, conservative and me-only Catholics are the non-lightning bugs who go about doing their own thing, unnoticed and unnoticing. By contrast, we Joyful Catholics brighten the world around us by demonstrating our concern and love for others—perhaps with a warm smile for a stranger, a call to the lonely, an act of kindness or a note of thanks and appreciation.
As I have said before, a complacent Catholic is third rate. What great joy there is in being a Joyful Catholic!

Recommended readings


- “No Third Reading” in Homiletic & Pastoral Review
- “Saint Teresa of Avila: Prayer-Centered Reformer” in Spiritual Life
- “A Reckoning- the Price Tag for America’s Wars” in Commonweal 7/16
- “The Jesus Controversy” in America 8/2-9 (Comment: I get annoyed at us Catholics who enjoy debating “the historical Jesus”. Why can’t we just accept that he was God-Made-Man, and ponder that forever.)

We do indeed need to show joy as Catholics. My motto — “Be happily and uncomplicatedly Catholic.”

Michael J. SheehanArchbishop of Santa Fe

My favorite priest, layperson, breathing saint or organization

As the Executive Director of the Religious Formation Conference, Sister Violet Grennan of the Missionary Franciscan Sisters is a dynamo of energy and enthusiasm.  The purpose of the Conference is to enrich Catholic religious women and men by helping them to gain new knowledge and skills in their pastoral ministries. She is benefiting us Joyful Catholic by endowing our spiritual guides with fresh and effective tools. Sister Violet, we love you!  

Now, tell me about your favorite Catholic priest, layperson or organization that is making a difference.

joyfulcatholic@comcast.net 

Quiz

Last week, the winner of the autographed copy of Light Reading for Good and Wayward Catholic is Susan Fox in New Orleans. Here are the answers:

  1. The sons of Jebedee whom Jesus nicknamed “Sons of Thunder” were James and John.
  2. 130 is the maximum number of Cardinals permitted to elect a

(Comment, I wish the maximum age were 50.)

  1. The patron saints of farmers is Isidore

News flashes

-         Bishop Felipe Arizmendi in Mexico lit a blaze when he blamed child abuse by priests on eroticism on television.

-         Commenting on the U.S, Conference of Catholic Bishops publication of “Setting the Record Straight,” Commonweal magazine said, “If the authors of this publication wish to seize a ‘new opportunity for the Catholic community to come together in defense of human life,’ they can start by not questioning the motives of those Catholics who disagree with them about how best to interpret the provisions of the new health-insurance law.  On questions such as this, disagreement should not be understood as a threat to unity, but as a sign of the church’s intellectual vitality.

       “American bishops too often seem to fear that any acknowledgement of the complexity of the issue of the church’s teaching on abortion would weaken their own position.”

(Comment – AMEN!)

-         Even though half of Catholic schools have closed since 1965, with a 20% drop in enrollment in the past ten years, Timothy Dolan, New York’s archbishop is working on a strategic initiative to save the Catholic schools in his archdiocese by co-operating closely with Catholic universities. This is in opposition to converting the schools into charter status (as in Washington, DC) and they no longer operate as religious establishments.

(Comment – Congratulations, Bishop Dolan, may other Catholic educators follow your lead.)

 

-   A sign outside the Church of God in Phoenix: HONK IF YOU LOVE  JESUS; TEXT WHILE DRIVING IF YOU WANT TO MEET HIM.

 Interesting sayings

Once I was at vespers and was gazing at the cross. And while I was thus gazing at the cross with the eyes of the body, suddenly my soul was set ablaze with love; and every member of my body felt it with the greatest joy. The joy which seized my soul in this moment can in no way be spoken of. And in no way whatever can I be sad concerning the passion; on the contrary, my joy is in seeing this man, and to come to him. All my joy now is in this suffering God-man.

Blessed Angela of Foligno, who died in 1309, was a wife and mother, and later a Franciscan tertiary and mystical writer.

 When you are going through hell, keep going.

   A waitress in Atlantis, FL

It is better to know some of the questions than all of the answers.

James Thurber 

Communiqués

The avalanche of messages from “The Pope is Pregnant” blog deserves a whole blog of its own.  They were both favorable and unfavorable, including a few threats.  So, be patient until I put it together.

 Chuckle time

In the book. How to Become a Bishop Without Being Religious, the author said there were two major requirements to be a bishop:

(a)  grey hair

(b)  hemorrhoids to give you a sorrowful look.

 

Special Intentions List

  As you pray with a broad brush, please include these loved ones, who have been submitted by our readers. You, too, are invited to send me names of your special persons who are in need of prayer.  My address is joyfulcatholic@comcast.net. They will be on the list for 60 days. At the end of that time, if prayers are still needed, you merely have to renew the name.

Juanita Caldwell, Isola Todd, David Abbey, Amie Ellis,

Linwood “Skip” Williams, Gerry Paradiso, Tom Medved, Eileen Grotsky, Roseanne Somlock, Nicholas Gallagher, Tom Lewis, Donald Whitcomb, Violeta Zepeda, John Aylor, Rev. Joseph Marini, Enrique Portillo,

 Sharon McPike, Tom Ryan, Joseph Normile, Jim Quimby, Russell Edwards,

Gertrude Goldstein, Rev. Stephen Huffstetter, Hugh Cannon, Eric Moore, Joan Barrett, 8-year-old Michael Fotta and his parents, Lolita Alvarez, Camilus Musselman, Jack Conner, Ed Block, Isobel Milligan,

Peter Bartkiewiez and his family, Joe Toles, Grace Toomey,

Camilus Musselman, Bob Kehlhofer, Ed Cole,Bishop Thomas Olmsted,

Rev. David Granfield, Mort Barron, Jay Parker

As you note, because of miraculous healings, several names have been deleted and added to our Deo Gratias list.

Smile collectors, we are!

We do indeed need to show joy as Catholics.   My motto — “Be happily and uncomplicatedly Catholic.”

Michael J Sheehan, Archbishop of Santa Fe

                            

Smile collectors, we are! 

I agree with Phyllis Diller who said, “A smile is a curve that sets everything straight.” And one of the requirements of being a Joyful Catholic is, each day, to be a smile collector.  It’s a good sport and the number of potential smile you can add to your collection is unlimited (especially in church).

          I am a “hello to strangers” fellow and I keep a record of my success in initiating smiles. Four out of five times I win.  And I say a quick prayer for the poor bastard who doesn’t respond. He or she must have troubles galore.

          In a weekly workshop I conducted for seniors, I gave the assignment of collecting smiles, and the next week Nancy, one of the participants, had an interesting story. She was working in her front yard and when she saw a woman walking by and, remembering to be a smile collector, she called out to the stranger wishing her a good day. The woman was shocked and stood still before she thanked her. “I’m on my way to Mass,” she said, “but could I stop by to see you on my way back.”

          She did, and during an hour-long coffee visit, she told of a personal problem which Nancy was able to help solve.  In summarizing the experience, Nancy said, “It was a miracle because this stranger, whom I discovered to be a remarkable woman. My smile initiated a new friendship.  We’re having dinner together tomorrow night.”

          In conclusion, I submit this poem by Anthony Euwer, who before he died in 1955 was a far better painter than poet:

                   No matter how grouchy you’re feeling,

                   You’ll find the smile more or less healing

                   It grows in a wreath

                   All around the front teeth -

                   Thus preserving the face from congealing.

(And tell me about your experiences as a Joyful Catholic smile collector)

  joyfulcatholic@comcast.net

 

 Other recommended Catholic blogs

Canadiancatholicblog

Catholic.geek. NZ

The Catholic Thing 

Recommended reading

 Nicholas Kristof’s column, “Who Can Mock This Church”, in the May 2 New York Timesis a masterpiece that every Catholic should read. If you can’t locate a copy, let me know and I will send it to you. aljagoe@comcast.net.

“Sins of Admission – Why wouldn’t Gay Parents Pick a Catholic School?”

In the April 23 Commonweal magazine.

 “The Last Babylift – Adopting a child in Haiti” in the May 10 New Yorker. 

What a Priest!

 

 

We do indeed need to show joy as Catholics.  

My motto — “Be happily and uncomplicatedly Catholic.”

Michael J Sheehan

Archbishop of Santa Fe

 

What a Priest!

I noticed the difference as soon as I went in the church.  For many decades, when in London I have attended Mass at St. Mary’s Cadogan Street Church, just a few blocks from Sloane Square.  Instead of it being the dark and foreboding place I remembered (built in 1879), I found the church was bright and inviting.  I was greeted at the door and made to feel welcome. The priest’s homily was brief and of value. He made a special point of inviting everyone to the annual picnic to be held after the service.

          At the end of the Mass, he asked everyone to remain and get to know the persons sitting beside them.  Five minutes later, my wife, the young woman next to us and I were strangers no longer. She was from Australia studying to be a nurse, and as she had relatives living in the States, she asked many questions about America.

          Leaving the church, I congratulated the priest, who was Canon Stuart Wilson. Even though we could not stay, he insisted that he lead us to the picnic in the large courtyard behind the church.  There I was shocked to see a happy event taking place, like a 4th of July celebration.  Everyone was having a splendid time, laughing, talking and clapping hands to the music of the four-piece Dixieland band.

          Having been awed by what I had seen, I called the next day to have an interview with Canon Wilson. He graciously agreed, and I met him Tuesday for morning coffee at the rectory.

          He proudly showed me how he had converted the former dismal rectory into a bright and happy residence. “This,” he said, “is not just the residence of the priest—it should be the home of everyone in the parish.”

Later he showed me an attractive meeting hall which had been storage space for unwanted items.

          In quizzing him about his involvement with St, Mary’s, he told me had been assigned to the church in 2006, when the church, rectory and community were in shambles. His first task was to get church members to join him in physically cleaning up the buildings. Then he began to renovate the buildings and developing a joyful sense of community.  An indication of his success is the fact that contributions to the church increased from 1,500 pounds a week to 3,700. 

          When we realized we both were converts, I told him about my conversion and asked about his. I was surprised when he told me he had been an Episcopal minister with a large church in London.  After years of prayerful concern, when he announced to his parishioners that he was to join the Roman Catholic Church, the entire congregation came with him.  “Wow!” I said.  “Don’t you need a bodyguard when you walk around the streets of London?”  He laughed and shook his head.

(And what are your thoughts? 

joyfulcatholic@comcast.net)

 

Other recommended Catholic Blogs

The American Catholic

Deacon’s Bench

Hermeneutic of Continuity

Recommended reading

 In the April 18 Sunday Opinion section of the New York Times, Nicholas Kristof has an excellent column “A Church Mary Can Love.” He ends with: “It’s high time for the Vatican to take inspiration from that sublime—even divine—side of the Catholic Church, from those church workers whose magnificence lies not in their vestments, but in their selflessness.  They’re enough to make the Virgin Mary smile.” (comment: Amen!)

The Catholic Martyrs of the Twentieth Century, by Robert Royal

 

 

I Could Have Baby-Sat the Pope

Being converted is simply meeting yourself for the purpose of going to the very end of your being. Conversion means a willingness to see the truth of things and conform one’s conduct to it.

                   Antonin Sertillanges

                   French spiritual writer 1863-1926

 

I Could Have Baby-Sat the Pope

          But Benedict XVI has been in the Church longer than I have because he is a born-Catholic and I didn’t convert until I was in my late twenties. 

As Archie Bunker said, “Ah, those were the days!” On the second Sundays of each month, over forty of us men in the Holy Name Society would gather for a rollicking breakfast in the basement of the church. Our occupations varied between a cab driver and construction worker to a federal judge and two doctors.  The many no-nonsense women in the Sodality made their presence known. And every Saturday there were lines outside the confessionals.  

          On each First Friday we had Nocturnal Adoration with good participation. I remember that the desk clerk in my apartment building was always puzzled when he would see me leave at 1:30 AM and return in good spirits two hours later.

          Back then, the Sacrament of the Eucharist was treated as the Holiest of the Holy. We would not receive Communion unless we had recently been to Confession and fasted since midnight. This time during the Mass was treated with quiet awareness and awe for one of the greatest Mysteries of our Faith.  In recognition of what was taking place there was respectful silence. Following the distribution of the Host, we had continued quiet time for thoughtful meditation.

          Today, the Church authorities have done an admirable job of watering down the importance of the Eucharist. They have achieved this by eliminating silence for depth of thought and by adding distractions to prevent more than two noiseless seconds.  The effective disconcerting things to keep the parishioner from being aware of the spiritual majesty of the Eucharistic include singing, announcements and the frequent second collection.

          Now, at Communion time, every Tom, Dick and Harriet line up like school children getting ready for recess and proceed to the front of the church.  As one parishioner told me, “Why not take Communion? It’s like a spiritual vitamin pill.  It can’t hurt and, besides, it’s free and part of the service.”

          I understand that if the present distractions had not succeeded in weakening the importance of the Eucharist, the bishops had planned to have ushers tap dance in the aisles with castanets. So be it.

          Back to Pope Benedict XVI, baby-sitting for him would have been a treat. I would have like him because I bet he was a bright and joyful kid who didn’t kick the dog.

          I do today.

(And you, who also are of vintage age, let me know your thoughts.)

joyfulcatholic@comcast.net

Interesting sayings

 Making your unknown known is the important thing—and keeping the unknown always beyond you — catching crystallizing your simpler clearer vision of life. The form must take care of it self if you can keep your vision clear. I some way feel that everyone is born with it clear but that with most of humanity it becomes blasted — one way or another.  

                                                Georgia O’Keefe 1926

 

 

Faith is not the refuge of the weak-minded but the domain of the brave.

                                                Psalm 116 (12) 

Do not be deterred from taking part in Sunday Mass, and help others discover it, too. This is because the Eucharist releases the joy that we need so much, and we must learn to grasp it ever more deeply, we must learn to love it.

                                                Pope Benedict XVI

 

 

(And what are a few of your favorite sayings?)

joyfulcatholic@comcast.net

Fancy words

(this one is good for us Joyful Catholics)

          theosophy (def: being wise in the things of God)

(this is a no-no for us)

          solipsism (def: that self is the sole existence)

News flashes

After the worst snow storm in 100 years, the South End Baptist Church in Frederick, MD, posted this on their outdoor sign: “Whoever is praying for snow, please stop.”

In chapter “What can priest do to help themselves?” in Light Reading for Good and Wayward Catholics, I recommend that a priest go shopping once a week in a supermarket where he can see and be seen. I read this week that Rev. Anita Naves, pastor of Cathedral of Life with no church, goes to the Giant Supermarket in Prince George County, MD, and accompanied by a saxophonist she offers to bless and pray with each customer. She has become so popular that she now has a sizeable following and has been given a location for her church. (Hey, you Catholic priests, are you paying attention?)

As I noted in the last issue, with the NBC’s poll on the question of whether to keep “In God We Trust” on our currency, 86% voted “yes”. However, with sneaky bureaucracy-at-its-best, the newly released dollar coin no longer has this phrase. I have received many blogs, recommending that we believers refuse to accept the new dollar coin when offered at the bank.

Contributions

This week I sent donations to:

St. Joseph’s Indian School in South Dakota (desperately in need of funds to cover their winter heating bills.)

Roman Catholic Heroes (doing good TV work for us Joyful Catholic.)

 

Other recommended Catholic Blogs

        Creative Minority Report

        Onward and Upward

        Roman Catholic Heroes

 Communiqués received

In regard to “Blessed are the poor” Beatitude, note that the Ten Commandments are negative and the Beatitudes are positive. 

           Charley Myers, Atlanta, GA 

Ain’t it a shame we can’t keep the spirit of Lent going throughout the year!

                                      Elmer Ruffson, Buffalo, NY 

I enjoy your blog which I share with friends. It is refreshing and oh so American.

                                      Alice Appleton, London, UK 

Yes, so long as people do not understand Scripture and Tradition regarding women deacons, there will be division and conflict. Hope you and all interested will use this as an opportunity to recover the historical diaconate for women in Christianity.

                                      Phyllis Zagano, Ph.D.

                                      Visiting Professor of Theology and Religion

                                       Saint Leo University, FL

My favorite religious priest, layperson or organization

This week I want to recognize Bill Clinton.  In serving as the U.N. representative in Haiti, he didn’t go there as do many celebrities who rush to a place of emergency to be photographed and quoted. Instead, he rolled up his sleeves, pitching in to help with his administrative skill and international influence.   President Bill, with your tireless effort, you set an example for all of us!

(Now, tell me about your favorite Catholic priest, layperson or organization that is making a difference

joyfulcatholic@comcast.net)

Quiz

The first to send the right answers to joyfulcatholic@comcast.net will receive a gift copy of Light Reading for Good and Wayward Catholics.

 1. In what year did Martin Luther tack his 95 theses on the church door in   Wittenberg?    

2.  Which of the disciples had been a follower of John the Baptist? 

3.  Who was the first America to participate in a papal election?

Chuckle time

(From our friend, Father Van Windsor, Episcopal Priest in Little Rock, AR.)

 One Sunday morning, Father Van noticed a six-year-old boy staring at the large plaque in the back of the church with American flags mounted at the top. When the youngster asked what it was, he explained it was a memorial to the young people who had died in the service.

          Then the kid asked, “Which service, the 8:30 or the 10:45?

Special Intentions List

As you pray with a broad brush, please include these loved ones, who have been submitted by our readers. You, too, are invited to send me names of your special persons who are in need of prayer. My address is joyfulcatholic@comcast.net. They will be on the list for 60 days. At the end of that time, if prayers are still needed, you merely have to renew the name.

Juanita Caldwell, Isola Todd, David Abbey, Amie Ellis, Linwood “Skip” Williams, Gerry Paradiso, Nick DeCarlo, Tom Medved, Eileen Grotsky, Roseanne Somlock, Nicholas Gallagher, Tom Lewis, Donald Whitcomb, Violeta Zepeda, Rev. Joseph Healy, John Aylor, Rev. Joseph Marini, Enrique Portillo, Sharon McPike, Tom Ryan, Joseph Normile, Jim Quimby, Russell Edwards, Msg. Louis Quinn, Rev. Lawrence Boedt, Gertrude Goldstein, Rev. Stephen Huffstetter, Hugh Cannon, Eric Moore

As you note, because of miraculous healings, several names have been deleted and added to our Deo Gratias list.